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Conquering worry is the most life changing gift

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For as long as I can remember, I’ve been what I like to call a ‘muller’. This does not mean that I am unhappy, or that I don’t have a normal functioning brain, capable of clear decision making. It just comes with an immense inbuilt bandwidth, to think excessively about an action, its consequence, its origin, which leads to another unrelated thought, bringing with it some anxiety and before you know it, you’re at the bottom of this confused vortex where you’ve done a run through of issues from problems at work, to your daughters health to your holiday expenses, to possibly the future of the economy of Ghana. What is meant to be a mechanism that should help plan and deal with life better becomes a deterrent to just that. It’s like having an unnecessary unproductive cobweb in your mind that you’re constantly wanting to get rid off.
Let me help you with an identification process here, to help you understand whether you fall into the same trap. I just read somewhere that thinking too much means that you are more intelligent, that you have the capacity to absorb and process more. I tend to think a bit differently here. The minds of great thinkers, philosophers, and all the most important people in history who have made an impact, must have been a complex and masterful web of thoughts and decisions but I doubt they could have done any of that without clarity of thought and peace of mind. No revolution, no dreams, no great acts can come from a pre occupied mind that is ‘stewing in its own pot’ so to speak!
Where and why have I attained this mental nirvana you ask me? To be honest, I still struggle with it on bad days and as I analytically tell my husband, I’m still in a batter state, far from being baked in the mould I desire! But in the last year, so much has happened around me, to me,  that I was forced to make a decision to stay sane. If I wanted to have a peaceful mind, not have it become a permanent residence of the chattering monkey, I would have to make some changes. The environmental factors would not change and were not in my control, but my mind and body should be.
Here is a very small snapshot of what I believe you must remind yourself once everyday to banish that worry.
– By worrying, neither does the problem change, nor its resolution. You are the one that suffers mentally.
– If you keep worrying, you will open your body to countless diseases in the future. This is a promise. Leading research has proven over the years that elevated levels of worry and stress are directly co-related with several common to life threatening diseases. They were right when they said you can worry yourself sick. You really can.
– When you are worrying, ask yourself, what is the worst that can happen? Once the worst of the consequences is clearly in-front of you, you’ll feel less dread and think more clearly.
– When you’re overanalysing and not being able to reach a decision, take to pen and paper (should be easy for you guys since you belong to this tribe:-) eh?) List out pros and cons. Sounds childlike in its simplicity but sometimes it really helps putting things in perspective.
– Take out one hour everyday to do something easy, where your mulling and your mind can relax. I turn to physical exercise very often. Sometimes I’ve gone into a workout with drooping shoulders and come out with a fantastic solution to something I’ve been obsessing over.
I’m just touching the tip of the iceberg here but I do hope it helps someone in some way. It is such a liberating feeling to unshackle your mind from fear, dread and over analysis. Try it and you will breathe like you have a new pair of lungs!
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  1. September 3, 2018 - Reply

    I’m glad that I read this. I belong to the category of people whose way of living has become synonymous with over thinking and over analyzing. You have written such a neat and insightful article that I’ve shared this few of my friends who have the same issue. I hope this helps us all.

    • September 3, 2018 - Reply

      @Sonia Chatterjee

      I knew we would have a lot in common! Thank so much love:-)

  2. September 3, 2018 - Reply

    Wow! This is really helpful Richa.. I am a ‘muller’ too! Going to try your tips… keep them coming!

    • September 3, 2018 - Reply

      @everydaybanterblog

      I’m so glad there’s another one of me out there and that you connected with what I wrote! Thank you:-)

  3. September 5, 2018 - Reply

    But no matter what it is that’s going on in your life – you don’t have to be defeated by worry. Over the years I’ve come to rely on a few things that have helped me navigate away from the stormy waters of worry and into the bay of peace. Don’t get comfortable with your worrisome thoughts, instead see them for the dangerous intruders that they are. Don’t allow yourself to worry about anything – from things as simple as the weather to things as serious as your loved ones. Worry is like a poison that can easily spread into every part of your life and eventually conquer your reality. Trust me Worry is an enormous waste of your precious and limited lifetime. I’ve learned a lot about life and nothing bothers me anymore. And it gets to be so, and it’s just the way it is. Acceptance, yes. If you don’t accept it you go down the drain. Be calm, go with the flow. How else can you live? Life is short, you have to be open-minded. Very open-minded, learn to accept instead of worrying, then you will be okay.

    • September 6, 2018 - Reply

      @☆Novemberschild☆ (@romspeaks)

      Absolutely Romila! So true. I just realised the futility of it and hence I’m making changes which will help me live a life where worry doesn’t control me. Thanks you for your valuable feedback yet again:-)

  4. September 10, 2018 - Reply

    I take to pen and paper often – i find it relaxing and it sorts me out

    • September 14, 2018 - Reply

      @Tina Basu

      Nothing as relaxing as that for sure Tina:-)

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